How was your week?

I hope that you had a good week. Mine was very busy with work. I had a few new projects kick off and for one of them, I had several hours of meetings with the client. It was good to be busy, but it was hard on my butt. I tried to make sure that I was listening to the prompts on my Apple Watch to tell me it was time to stand up and at least walk around for a few minutes, but I was not always successful especially on back-to-back video calls. I am glad to see more people using their video during the calls. I do think that the video and Internet providers are having problems with all the video connections going on. I have still continued my morning and evening dog walks. They have become my morning and evening commute to and from work. Not that I stop working after the evening walk, but it is a nice break and gets me away from the computer for a good chunk of time. What I have started to do during my evening walk is to talk to many of my friends. Yes, when I would drive home from the office, I would normally connect with my friends, but I have really expanded the list of people that I am talking to. I have surprised some of them by calling, because I normally do not talk to some them, but it has been a welcome connection to hear their voice and make sure they are ok. Some of them have even surprised me and thanked me for...

How are you doing?

How is it going for you? How are you handling all the changes around the COVID-19 pandemic? It has been stressing me out a bit. On Saturday, I was doing my normal errands to pick up stuff we needed in the house and when I got home, I was really feeling stressed. I am seeing more people with gloves and masks. I am seeing more signs about what you should be doing about the virus and if you are not feeling well to stay home. I am seeing guards in stores that never had guards before. At one store, the guard asked, as I walked in, if I had been traveling in the past 14 days. I am seeing lines and signs on the floor to show me where I am supposed to line up to help keep the social distance. At one place, their systems were down and I had to pay cash. Ugh! Handling money, which my wife has reminded me is one of the dirties surfaces we can come in contact with. I am thankful that the stores that I went to did not have many people in them and that people were keeping their distance from each other as much as possible. I am hoping that the social distancing is working and slowing the spread of the virus. When I came home with all that stress, I am thankful that it was a nice day and I could get out for a walk in nature. I grabbed the dog and we went for a long walk on some trails in the neighborhood with some of...

Morning Calm

COVID-19 is causing the world to change and with that change, I feel COVID-19 is stressing a lot of people out. I say that because I am feeling some anxiety over it due to the uncertainty and the changes that are going on in our society today. Even though I am used to working from home, I do like going into the office to interact with people a few days a week. Thus with mandatory work from home, I am missing the social contact of the office. Yes, we use video conferencing and it just isn’t the same as walking over to somebody’s desk and talking about the latest episode of Picard, or how did the Leafs do last night, or how is your bracket doing for March Madness. Plus, am I the only one who turns on their camera to welcome people to a video conference? What is up with that? To help me, and hopefully help others, I am going to start doing what I am calling Morning Calm. Morning Calm will be a 10-15 minute morning meditation that I will do live at 8:30 am EDT, Monday through Friday. You do not have to be live to watch it, just click on the daily link and watch it whenever it is convent for you. I will be posting the daily live link on several social media platforms; Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn, and Twitter, around 8 am EDT. Please forward to anybody who you think would benefit. I will be producing it using Microsoft Teams Live Events, because it is something that I have available to me and...

What do I desire?

For the longest time, I have prioritized work and family in my life. Work has been number one and family has been number two. I did not even consider a third item on the list other than wait for one or two to tell me what they need. While putting the priority on work and family, I have limited myself to be what they needed versus allowing myself to truly be me and I knew that I needed and wanted it to shift. To get me to expand, I have been asking myself over and over What do I want? I felt that if I could answer what do I want? that it would help me expand who I am. Except, I have been having a hard time answering that question. I think part of the answer to that question makes me look outside instead of inside of me. When I think of want, I start to think of things, like the newest iPhone (yes, I have it). I have thought for a while that not being able to answer the question what do I want? has been holding me back. If I cannot define what I want, how can I move forward? How could I expand who I am? And then, a friend of mine asked me a different question, What do I desire? and in asking that question, my heart started to open up. I started to feel inside of me what I desired instead of outside with what I wanted. It was an interesting shift in looking at where I desired to take my life instead...

Dress for Your Day

We have a new policy at the office on what you can wear to work. It is called Dress for Your Day, which means you can where whatever you want as long as it is appropriate for your day. For example, if you are just in the office and just working with your co-workers, you can dress casual. If you have a meeting with a customer whether it is in the office or at their site, you need dress in business attire. The previous policy was Monday through Thursday, you needeed to wear business attire and only on Friday could you where casual attire. My normal attire whether I was in the office or on customer location was to where a suit Monday through Thursday. So, last night, as I was getting my clothes together for the next business day, I decided that I was going to dress casual and take advantage of the new policy. I was going to wear a company branded golf shirt and jeans on a Wednesday. I wanted to take advantage of Dress for Your Day. I did not have any customer facing meetings planned. So, I could be casual and this all felt great until I was getting ready to jump in the shower on Wednesday morning. I looked at the clothes that I laid out and I thought, What the heck are you doing? It is a business day! You should be wearing business attire to go into the office! Go and get a suit to wear today! It was an interesting thought that shot fear through my body and I almost...

Caring What People Think

I consider myself a caring person. I care how people are doing. I care about what is going on in their life. I try to remember their birthdays. I try and reach out when there is an important event in their life. I try and keep in contact with them over the years. I know that I have many special relationships, because of the caring that I have for people. Where I think that this breaks down is when I care about what people think of me. In some of those cases, instead of saying what the person needs to hear, or what I believe, I say what I think they want to hear. Instead of doing what I think is right, I do what I think they want me to do. In both cases, I am limiting who I am as a person by trying to be what I think they want me to be. I have the biggest problem with this with people of power, like my boss. Sometimes, I sit in meetings with these people and instead of being with the energy and allowing me to answer from me, I am more concerned with saying what I think these people want to hear. To be in alignment with them, instead of saying something that might disappoint them. Though I consider that by doing this, I am caring, but in reality I am only caring about me. Afraid of being rejected. Wanting their acceptance. If I am not being true to myself, does it really matter if I have their acceptance or not? If I am trying...